Comments on: smoke and mirrors

By: the spirits are saying slow down « lahikmajoe

the spirits are saying slow down « lahikmajoe — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 17:13:36 +0000

[...] of the finest people I’ve known virtually died earlier this year (I wrote about her in smoke and mirrors), and it still gets me. In quiet moments, I can still feel her presence. But remember, I [...]

By: lahikmajoe

lahikmajoe — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 22:59:28 +0000

Oh yes Rosalie,

You clearly got what I was getting at here. That’s it exactly.

Thanks for taking the time to say so.

By: Rosalie

Rosalie — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 22:16:52 +0000

What a lovely blog. I have many ‘real life’ friends who don’t know as much about me as many of my Twitter friends. It feels so comfortable sharing hopes and grumbles and various pieces of my life with people who I will probably never meet. At first they were all holograms but then, over the months many became real. And dear Milly was one of the ‘real’ ones, yes, most definitely ! She was as real as it gets ! I , too, am ridiculed by the ‘non-believers’ who tell me they are not ‘real friends’ and I always say ‘Try it and you will see how wrong you are ‘ !! God bless you Milly and all who read this. We are all real behind the smoke and mirrors.

By: Andreas Heinakroon

Andreas Heinakroon — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 07:27:54 +0000

I tend to view the online experience as a whole, without separating it into different platforms. People I know from their blogs, I usually also know on Twitter or Facebook etc. The relationship is then the sum of Tweets, Facebook updates and blog posts, making it more complete.

So yes, blog posts can be a more in depth insight into someones mind, but the rapid response and immediacy of micro-blogging like Twitter give you more of a real-time relationship. I wouldn’t want to miss out on either.

By: Technograns

Technograns — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 06:34:09 +0000

Internet friendships based on blogging can be as real as life ones because over a period of time, you really get to know about that person via their blog posts, but internet friendships via social networks such as facebook or twitter or Google, no because those short missives made via those means are not as informative, or allow you to get to know the person making them.

By: Andreas Heinakroon

Andreas Heinakroon — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 22:59:41 +0000

I’m very sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.

I agree with the other commenters that internet relationships are as real as real life ones. After all, any relationship is based on communication and online interaction is all about communication. So we could even say that they are purer in a sense, as no other factors get in the way.

I have only a vague idea of what most of my online friends look like, how old they are or if they speak with a particular accent or not. It doesn’t matter. What’s important is what they say, how they respond and how they make you feel.

A friend is a friend, and the loss of a friend is a terrible thing. My thoughts are with you.

By: blogginglily

blogginglily — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 19:19:12 +0000

Hmm. I’ve been so caught up in my little tea experiment that I haven’t even visited this blog, and now that I have I feel a little silly for bending your ear about it. Sorry to hear about your friend.

Personal take. . . every first encounter is superficial, real or online. I find that internet relationships seem to progress faster than the real life ones. Walls are lower. Filters are removed. You might even argue you get a truer picture of who someone is from your online interaction than you do face-to-face because people find it easier to open up and find it less daunting to “be themselves”.

Sorry for your loss.

By: Technograns

Technograns — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 06:32:57 +0000

Its quite a few years back now, and I would have to ask permission of her family to retell it all. She was a wonderful lady who did some amazing blog posts.

By: lahikmajoe

lahikmajoe — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 22:32:56 +0000

Oh wow Technograns,

I’d like to hear more about Aunty Jane.

This wasn’t originally intended to be a blog about dogs, but I got on a bit of a #DachshundBlog tear over the holidays. I think some people only come here to hear more about my dogs.

By: lahikmajoe

lahikmajoe — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 22:31:09 +0000

She did, didn’t she?